Sex Lives of Wives

A man’s ultimate embarrassment…

I am told that an ultimate embarrassment for any man is to run into a wall with an erection and only break his nose. I am sure that most guys could think of several other such embarrassing scenarios. This brings up the age old question of whether size matters. I personally do not spend any time pondering this subject. All the women I have asked say the same thing. Sure to be well endowed is nice but that is certainly not at the top of the list as to what makes a sexual encounter great. Many of us (woman that is) can recall fantastic sexual moments in our past where that particular piece of male anatomy did not even factor into it.

However the men do seem to place a great deal of merit on the subject in general. As I said in Sex Lives of Wives: “We may never fully understand the depth of importance men place on their penis, but the mere fact that they often speak of it, have an endless number of slang terms for it, and even actually name it should give us a clue. What would it be like if our sex organs were on the outside of our body? What would it be like if we could actually stimulate every inch of them and could actually feel with our hand and see the pulsating explosion of an orgasm? If we could do all this to the extent of our male counterparts, we just might begin to understand it.” So maybe if we do put a little thought into it, we just might feel inspired to not only re-examine his anatomy but discover some new ways to appreciate it as well. … The return on our efforts just might be astonishingly satisfactory.

Daily Connection

At the conclusion of an interview this past week, the interviewer volunteered a great passion enhancing “tip” for me to share. Every evening upon returning home from work, the first thing he and his wife do is sit down on the couch and he gives his mate a foot massage. The couple reconnects and this sets the tone for the rest of the evening. He receives the added benefit of exercising his hands so as to improve his golf game – a reflexology tip from a golf pro – and she gets a relaxing foot massage and a few peaceful moments of intimacy with her mate. Great tip!

Want more great tips from real people in the trenches of marriage? Come back to this blog in the coming days and weeks, I will be sharing the many passion igniting tips and ideas provided by the many who attended the events where I have been speaking, including input from attendees at the book store signing events; The Democratic Divas Event; Relax, Relate and Rejoice Event; the WomanSage Convention; The American Business Woman’s Association Luncheon, and more.

Reigniting the Passion at WomanSage!

Last weekend I had the honor of speaking at the WomanSage convention in Anaheim, California. I was truly amazed and inspired by the vast number of women in mid life and beyond that were making huge waves in their professions, forming new businesses and relationships, and reaching out to impact their communities — in many cases reinventing themselves and making a dramatic difference in the lives of others. These women all recognized that at mid life there is a whole other half of life still ahead and the opportunities are not limited. www.womansage.com.

In fact with experience on our side there is a lot more that we can achieve – we have so many productive years in front of us. All we have to do is remember that we are “sages” – having gained knowledge and experience that is valuable! We have the opportunity to accomplish what we desire and ultimately be revered for our wisdom and good judgment.

With such wisdom, comes the realization that we have the power to reignite the passion in our marriages, careers, and our lives. We only have to make passion a priority again. Seek out those opportunities and moments that bring joy into our otherwise stressful lives because life is too short to hold off until the right moment or when we have more time and energy – that day may never come. “If change is ever going the happen, someone has to adjust his or her attitude and take the lead – and how empowering to be the instigator! Our actions will inspire…. Change may not be easy at first, but the payoff will come. [Others] will take notice and likely follow suit. Things will get more interesting – we have the power to make it so!” (Excerpted from Sex Lives of Wives: Reigniting the Passion, page 200).